What Is Counselling?
“Many people go through crises in their lives without really having somebody to talk to. Or they do have somebody, but do not want to discuss particular issues. Many people accumulate distress inside (which sometimes attracts them to ways of ‘numbing out’ – alcohol, television and other blessings of modern life). We all have some experience of what a difference a good chat and a sympathetic listening ear can make. Now multiply that by ten, and you have good therapy.” – Michael Soth
Mostly, counselling is about learning to be with our vulnerability and we learn that by being in the presence of another who accepts us wholly as we are. That is the real art of counselling that change is born from. It is not a fight for change. Paradoxically, it is our vulnerability that makes us powerful.
My approach is particularly influenced by the view that it is the relationship itself, between therapist and client, that soothes. Some of the most profound and beautiful moments in my life have been shared in therapeutic work.
We may work through layers of insecurity, inadequacy, depression, anger, rage and hate, as well as contacting more sublime feelings of love and intimacy, exploring patterns within your psyche and the many aspects to your identity, revealing your deeper self. We will explore and discover together the path of healing that is right for you, so that you can move on, into the life that you choose.
Although steeped in the approach of depth oriented relational psychotherapy, over the years I have become increasingly attuned to the poignant contributions of positive psychology into the field of human development and the importance of aligning cognitive, emotional and physiological processes with what individuals personally deem as meaningful, purposeful, uplifting or enlivening to them.
To this end I work from a model of thought=emotion=neurobiology, therefore gaining deliberate control over our thoughts and learning to direct thoughts in more life giving and life supporting ways remains a primary focus of the work.
I also integrate into my practice a form of energy work that uses non invasive cranial (head) touch which can assist in creating more internal space. This can facilitate a deeper integration of the therapy, allowing the body to find its own ways of releasing tensions, softening tissue, restoring the vital flow of fluids and energy. This work is born out of my interest in cranial sacral therapy, my knowledge and study of energy psychotherapy and my knowledge and experience of body psychotherapy, that pays attention to the body’s expression of emotional trauma, where emotional pain may be expressed as a physical symptom. I personally underwent body psychotherapy for 7 years prior to my training as a counsellor and psychotherapist.
This work is also grounded in my training and qualification in vortex healing, a healing art with the aim of releasing blockages in the human energy system thus restoring well being, and my training and qualification in massage therapy, manual manipulation of soft body tissue to enhance a person’s health and well-being.
The main consideration here is the maintenance of clear boundaries between client and therapist and may be explored in situations where talking therapy may be further supported. In such cases cranial sessions would be considered within clear boundaries and exploration of any impact of cranial work on the therapeutic relationship would be addressed consciously as part of the therapy.